Girls just wanna have fun. But girls have tons of work to clear, too. HELP!
24 hours a day is no longer enough for you. You’ve cleared work, but you’re still bringing tons of work home. It’s not that you’re incompetent – maybe you’re too competent and work keeps getting shafted up your way. (All about that positive reframing, huh?)
If you’re girl-bossing your way through life, it’s time to put the strong-independent girl front on pause. Adulting is no fun, and it truly feels like you’re on the brink of a burnout.
Welp, consider this a way that the universe is reaching out to you — here’s some possible ways to help you THRIVE again, before you spiral into a wet puddle of sadness.
CREATE A PRE-WORK RITUAL
Remember how Sunday scaries feel like? That feeling of dread, stress and anxiety, like the whole world’s waiting for you to clock in and get the job done.
Instead of arriving at work stressed and flustered, start off the day (or even evening before) with a ritual that’ll calm you down. This looks different for everyone – it could be planning your schedule the next day, blocking your time out, having a cup of tea, setting your phone on airplane mode.
Whatever it is, getting into a ritual probably helps ease your nerves – remember that you are in control!
SETTING BOUNDARIES AT WORK
We’ve all been there — being a people pleaser who struggles to say no to additional responsibilities, spoiler: you’re not getting paid extra.
While it’s always good to initiate help, don’t break your back doing it. After all, you cannot pour from an empty cup. Saying no isn’t a bad thing.
If you’d like to provide some alternatives, here are some ways to:
- I do not have the bandwidth right now, but perhaps in the near future.
- I want to help you, but perhaps if there’s an extended timeline?
- Is it possible for me to get additional resources for this task?
All you have to do is ask! Ask and you will receive.
SUNSHINE & MOVEMENT
Think of us humans as… plants! We need good nutrition, a fertile soil, and also sunshine to grow well. While these may seem like basic living conditions, remember that humans are… also built to be living beings.
We spoke to a C-suite Director, and he chirpily shared his hobby — bird-watching and taking walks in peaceful nature reserves! The act of slowing down keeps him grounded in both mindfulness, and the present.
“There is no Wi-Fi in the forest, but I promise you will find a better connection.” – Ralph Smart
JOURNALING & IDENTIFYING YOUR STRESSORS
When we get anxious, it’s typically a sign we’re internalising endless worries – most of which have yet to happen.
A good way to let it out is to externalise – whether through speaking to a confidant, or to your trust ol journal. Simple steps* that’ve worked for us:
- Take time to observe your thoughts
- Write (or type) them out
- Introspecting — What are you worrying about? Is it grounded in truth and fact? Or am I jumping the gun by worrying too much?
- Finding a solution — Is there anything I can do now, in this moment, to make the situation better?
- Sitting in uncertainty and finding ease
* Do note that these aren’t certified by a professional and are merely recommendations from IP’s team!
